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Archive for the month “January, 2015”

Falling in love again at 58!


I never thought I would fall in love again at my age.. after all at 58…who does?

Well I did…I am in love again… butterflies in my stomach…my heart so full of love.. it’s overflowing..my life has changed in a blink of an eye… I have purpose now.. I have joy.. I have something exciting to look forward to… I have a new name now too!! It’s Grandma… ! I am a grandma to an incredible little grandson… who is just two weeks old… he had me from hello..when he was just barely a few hours old.. I made the drive from North Carolina to Maryland..I had just left my driveway when we learned of his birth and heard his first cries as he was getting his first diaper …I heard the joy in my sons voice…he was a daddy…as I drove to the hospital. four hours away… I thought a lot about being a grandma.. seeing him…loving him.. wanting to teach him so much about life.. I dream of having the kind of relationship with him as I did with my Grandmother.. I loved her beyond measure.. I loved to be with her on weekends ..school holidays and summer vacations…anytime spent with grandma Swope was special to me.. and it continued into my adulthood..And the closeness we had, was shared with her to great grandson..my sons.. they shared a special bond with her.. as I did…and our bond was a shared my whole lifetime…until she was 90! How lucky was I !

I want that with my grandson.. I want him to know that I will be there for him…always.. I want to tell him the family stories…I want him to learn about his ancestors…I want to teach him things about life.. I want to watch him grow into a wonderful successful man like his father..

I want to teach him recipes that have been handed down from many generations …I want to share my love of the outdoors with him.. I want to teach him to be kind and loving ..at all cost..and to love everyone…never looking down at others unless he is helping them up…I want him to give back to our society and learn to do for others..I want him to learn to be loyal and know what character is…and how to keep it..I want him to learn right from wrong and how to listen to his inter soul to guide him.. I want him to learn a great education will get him further in life..and will open doors that would not be open to him otherwise..

Always tell the truth.. it will keep you out of trouble.. if you find yourself in trouble..fess up and face the consequences..it won’t last for ever…

I want to teach him that all women are beautiful.. Never use them..never hit them.. always treat them kindly..you can have women as friends…every man should have one or two..as friends.. and if they listen they will learn much about them…never date two women at once.. and never break their hearts on purpose..I want him to learn to open doors for them…always walk them to the door..never expect a kiss on the first date..but don’t be afraid if it feels right to ask for one..never talk about a woman in the locker room ..or to others you can’t trust..her reputation should be honored..if you see others degrading a woman ..stick up for her..every chance you get..hopefully others will get the hint..

Be the best friend you can be…honest and truthful… Keep a secret when asked….give good advise…and be there when they need you the most..good friends are hard to find..remember make new friends but keep the old.. one is silver and the other is gold…

Your parents are going to be upset with you at some point..know that they still love you..and always will.. know that you can go to your parents about ANYTHING… never think you are alone..don’t lie to them…NEVER talk back to them…listen to what they are trying to teach you..it’s for your own good.. even if you don’t think so at that moment..I want him to honor his mother and father.. at all cost..seek their advise and take it..I want him to be independent but causious..I want him to fall in Love when he is over 30…and understand that women are equals..he should always protect her.. love her…and honor her..never betraying her trust..for that is hard to earn back.

I want him to have children of his own..and bring them up as him..and teach them the very lessons he has learned..as old as I am now.. I realize I may never see him become the man I dream he will be..at 58…I may be luck to see him through high school let alone college..marriage and children.. but I have many years to help mold him into an upstanding young man…who will make his parents proud … I can help teach him…many things that will carry him through difficult time..

I want him to know that in life there will be disappointments..but its how you handle those disappointments that make your stronger and not a victim of them…I want him to know he can do anything if he puts his mind to it.. there is a whole world out there for the taking ! Go Grab it!!! Look for adventure… travel as much as you can..taking the unbeaten path.. learn about others.. and remember nothing worth having in life ..is free or easy..you must work hard…live a good honest life.. be kind to all…and love yourself..and always remember Grandma Loves You!

Tips…fighting weight loss!

I have researched tips..helps…and must do’s on weight loss… you can google it and find hundreds if not thousands of ideas…. I have sifted through them to come up with the ones I want to implement..
#1 No soda…not even diet… I gave up soda in August and have not looked back!
#2 Drink water.. drink water.. drink water.. your body needs it.. do it..! Add lemon if you like.. but drink it!
#3 Cut out sugar… we don’t need it.. it is useless calories… and it encourage us to over indulge..
#4 No White Flour.. I find that I feel better if I don’t eat white flour..I do use Almond and Coconut flour only!
#5 Limit carbs…carbs are NOT good for us.. period.. empty calories ..I am the first to admit its difficult!
#6 Limit dairy… try other non dairy prive oducts..I can not digest dairy well..
#7 No Cows milk..choose Almond milk… it even comes in chocolate. I am also enjoying coconut milk…!
#8 Use Olive oil…it is good.. also coconut oil..!
#9 Flax Seed…. put it in smoothies…it will help regulate you…once scoop is all you need!
#10 Vegies at every meal.. yes even at breakfast…I love 2 cups of salad in my smoothie! Or in a omelet!
#11 Limit your time sitting down.. limit computer and TV time.. only reward yourself with more time if you exercise!
#12 Exercise..take the stairs instead of the elevator..park further away and walk…join the gym!
#13 Bake…broil and boil and grill…love grilling even in the winter!
#14 Plan ! Plan! Plan ! Always plan your meals for the week! you are less apt to overeat…
#15 Never shop when your hungry…period!
#16 Drink green tea… before and after meals.. it helps with digestion…
#17 End your day with a protein drink..it will help burn fat at night
#18 Eat fresh! No packaged foods! Your health will thank you!
#19 MOVE IT! MOVE IT! Move as much as possible!
#20 NO FAST FOOD! Period.. there is nothing good there..nothing…
#21 Eat at the table..not in front of the TV…no seconds..
#22 Use veggies for snacks… it helps you get in your daily requirement!
#23 Use water or hot tea to ward off hunger..drink if you are feeling hungry between meals..
#24 Meditate… it sooths the soul…
#25 Look for exciting..active things to have as hobbies…get out there and try new things.!
As my list grows I will update this….don’t try them all at once… spread them out… and enjoy!

Garlic Brown Sugar chicken tenders

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These were fantastic! And were very easy to make in little time!
First add splenda brown sugar to a bowl..add 2 tab low sodium soy sauce…and 3 tab minced garlic…mix in a little bit of water to make it pourable…brown4line baking dish with parchment paper..( it will save on clean up)brown3 marinade chicken tenders in sauce for two hours or longer…brown2place in lined baking dish…top with a 1/3 of a slice of bacon…brown1 and pour marinade over top…bake at 375 degrees for 40 minutes…

If you don’t like where you are move..! You are not a tree!

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I can’t believe 2015 is here! Oh where has the time gone? I will turn 59 in May? Really? 59? OMG! 2014 was an incredible year for me.. became a GRANDMOTHER! My little grandson was born on December 20th! That little man has stolen my heart from the moment I laid eyes on him.. I love him sooo much. He has also saved his grandmothers life… on one swoop….one photo… one moment captured in time for ever… his first Photo of Himself with his Grandma….OMG! I cried….how in the HELL did I get this fat??? How can you even see this beautiful little baby boy among the layers of fat that he is laying on called his grandmother? When did I get this fat??? And why didn’t anyone tell me?
Let me back up a bit… if I was told to describe myself …I would say that I am a fun loving… adventure seeking free spirited person.. I love the ocean ..kayaking… swimming… hiking…meeting people..and want to enjoy life to the fullest…reality is…I am a big fat mess… I haven’t been to the ocean in two years… I couldn’t even begin to fit into a kayak let along ride in one… the only hike I have been on in the last 8 years..has been to the mailbox…or climbing the three steps into my house…adventurous? Really what is that? free spirited ? Really Beverly? Maybe back in 2005? And exercise? What is this again? I have a bike.. a gazzell…and one of the large balls to sit on… I have more weights than my local gym…and a WII that hasn’t been used in over two years… What happened..? I think I quit enjoying things I use to do..and fell out of love with myself.. Let me back up again… in 2005 I met the love of my life.. my soul mate..I was in the best shape I had been in for years…having come off a very one sided marriage that was full of lies and deciete..I had FINALLY found the my soul mate.. the man Who was a part of me.. my love. my heart my world…I had never met anyone like him.. ever… a Sgt Major in The Marine Corps ..a mover and a shaker who taught me more about myself than I had ever known.. He made me believe in my own self and the power that I had inside me..He let me be me..and loved me for it..we were equals…partners in love and life..and we were separated my thousands of miles..he in Germany me in North Carolina.. but we made it work..we learned everything about each other.. we talked for HOURS on the phone..we hated every moment we were apart and the best part of our days was when we were together..he made me whole…we shared things about our hopes and dreams and things about our past…that I had never shared with anyone..little things.. big things… he completed me…he was my “other” half.. we were lovers and best friends..we were inseperatable..and I still feel that way today.. but life and family…appreared its ugly head and we were forced to live stated apart, connected by love..and what was in our hearts..but duty called…and for reason I won’t explain..we have to live separate lives..peeking in on each other..and still promising our love..but apart.. is how it must be. some may not understand and that is ok.. but we shall forever be in each others hearts..I now know life changed so much for me..with him not in it…in the way I wanted.. and I didn’t want anyone else..I still don’t…and I have done a really good job of NO one wanting me..depressed and lonely.. I made up my own little world that I wasn’t going to let anyone else in…. I did it well..it’s easy Now to look back and re think my life and how I got here.. sometimes it’s painful…but I need to understand how I got here… to understand how to get back to my old self..my healthier self.. to have lost the greatest love of my life.. at times is painful..but knowing that I at least had it.. helps… so my grandson has let me fall in love again. something I never thought I would ever do again… I want to get healthy to live longer and to be in my grandson’s live as long as I possibly can… this little boy is saving my life.. he has given me hope… love.. and a reason to move on.. he is helping to heal my heart.. something that no one else has been able to do… I shall be forever a grateful grandma…here is 2015 being my best year yet! In my next post I will share how I am going to do this… until then.. have a great new year!soulmate

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